Why Husbands Lie About Watching Porn

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Wives may find evidence of porn on the computer or find magazines that their husbands have hidden. When confronted about the porn, many husbands will lie rather than admit to viewing porn. Why do husbands lie about watching porn?

In many cultures, pornography is considered more socially acceptable than in others. Adolescents who are first exposed to porn may be told it's dirty, bad, or embarrassing. Those adolescents who acquire pornographic material often will hide it.

The attitude that porn is embarrassing or bad may continue into adulthood. A man may feel ashamed for viewing porn. The shame and embarrassment are common reasons why men will lie when confronted about porn.

Women may feel that they must not be attractive if their husbands are watching porn. Finding evidence of pornography can cause pain or injure the woman's self-esteem. Many husbands realize that their wives may take it personally, so they hide the porn and lie if they get caught with it.

Many men consider watching porn to be a normal part of their sexuality. They may have seen evidence of their fathers viewing porn such as finding a pornographic magazine. Some men will tell their friends about porn websites that they browse.

However, men may not know how their wives will react to their use of porn if it was never discussed. Men often have the perception that porn is something that has to be hidden from women. It's a dirty little secret that couples don't like to discuss.

Not all couples are like that. Some couples treat porn as a normal part of sexuality. The woman may accept the man's use of porn or even watch it with him. Obviously, the man is less likely to lie about porn if it is openly discussed and shared in the relationship.

What does watching porn mean to the relationship? Wives often think that they must not be satisfying their husbands if they are using porn. Out of self-doubt or hurt, the woman may confront the husband in an accusatory tone which puts the husband on the defensive.

Lying is a natural response to being confronted with something embarrassing or potentially damaging to the relationship. A wife who wants honest answers about her husband's porn use should consider calmly discussing the subject and her feelings about porn.

Porn can cause many conflicts in marriages. The wife may feel insecure or threatened if her husband watches porn. Some women think that their husbands want to cheat on them if they watch porn. A husband can feel guilty about watching porn or even have some underlying resentment towards his spouse for not accepting his porn use.

These different perceptions and feelings about porn demonstrate how important it is for a couple to discuss their views on pornography. If pornography is discussed openly and the couple reaches an agreement about whether it is acceptable or not, pornography is less likely to be a source of conflict in the relationship.