Discovering Your Partner Likes Porno

How To Deal With Your Partners' Porn Habits / Discovering Porn (On Your Partners' Computer)

Although we are all sexual beings it can be quite a shock to discover you partner has been watching porn especially if you have a good relationship.  The fact, that he is keeping this activity a secret is often as much of  a shock as the fact that he is watching it to begin with.  However, how you deal with this discovery can make a lot of difference.  Here are some tips to help you if you find yourself in this situation.

Take A Step Back

Your first instinct is going to be to run to your partner and ask him why you aren't enough for him.  You are probably feeling a bit hurt and jealous and may even want to strike back.  However, take some time to calm yourself and think things through.  You know that most men and many women enjoy watching porn.  It doesn't mean that your partner is going to cheat or loves you any less.  They like most women enjoy a little fantasy but, they simply need more visual stimulation.

The fact that they didn't tell you about their habit may simply because this is a difficult subject to broach and they may not have known how to approach the topic with you.  Give them the benefit of the doubt at least until you have had time to analyze the situation.

Look At The Big Picture

Try to stand back and analyze the situation.  Has your partner suddenly started watching porn after some problem in your relationship?  Has he suddenly started asking or demanding you do things you feel totally uncomfortable about doing?  Is his watching porn interfered with his meeting his responsibilities  or  the amount of time he spends with you, his friends, or his family?  Has he become obsessive over watching just one type of porn or does watch porn that is illegal?

If the answer is no to all these questions that his porn watching is perfectly normal and even healthy. However, if you can honestly answer yes to any of these questions then there is problem and you need to take the appropriate action.

Get It Out In The Open

Once you are calm and in control then talk about it.  Have an open discussion and don't make accusations or get emotional.  Talking about it openly and honestly just may bring the two of you even closer together.  Then if you feel it is needed set to rules as to his watching together.  

Just remember that every person has their own way of staying in touch with their sexual being and needs a little privacy to do so.   If we didn't have that privacy then our sexuality and how we felt about it would be defined by other people.  And no one wants that.